Interesting Reasons Why Women Love BDSM

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BDSM might sound like a handful or something out of the ordinary for those who know little or nothing about it. But if you take a closer look at it, you will come to see that it is not really as complicated as you thought.

It is likely going to be difficult for you to believe that some of the women in your life may have fantasized about BDSM at some point in their life. To clarify things, just go ahead and ask the women that are open to you or the ones you are really close to. Their answer may shock you to the bone.

In this article, we are going to be looking at some solid reasons why women are interested or fantasize about BDSM.

Before we dive right into the nitty-gritty of this article we are first going to be looking at the meaning of the term BDSM. BDSM represents- Bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism.

Bad girl syndrome

A few years ago only a handful of people fully understood what BDSM was all about. Thanks to the movie – fifty shades of Grey, many women got a clear picture of what the practice is about. For those who haven’t read the book or watched the movie, basically, it was about a refined man who derives sexual satisfaction from dominating women. The man meets a lovely but reserved lady who later got sucked into his reality because of her strong desire for him.

At first, she felt that she could change him. However, she got pulled more and more into the man’s world. She was slowly converted from a good girl to a bad one.

In the society we live, women who transform from good to bad are often criticized and looked at in a bad light. But at the same time, the fame and success of these women increases. For a second, think about Miley Cyrus, who stole the heart of most Americans when she played the adorable role of Hannah Montana. Back then, she confidently stated that she would never get drunk or do drugs. Miley is presently a far cry from of the innocent girl that charmed a lot of people. We've all come to see her wild side. Although some criticize her, a lot of people still love and adore her.

Deep desire

Truth be told, every woman has a wild side. Conservative women usually want to take it slow at first, but after having sex a couple of times, they may become wild and soon be begging you to handcuff them, slap them around out even tie them up. Some women love it when they are shoved against the wall or physically restrained.

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Here is an example that will help you get a clearer picture of what *deep desire is all about*. Let's say a young child is restricted by her parent from eating candy all her life. The parent of this young child didn’t just restrict her from eating candy but never bothered to explain to her why she is forbidden from eating candy.

Years passed by and the child is now an adult and she is at a candy shop. At first, there is going to feel some sort of hesitation. Once she is able to overcome her mental barriers, buy a candy and taste it, her world will change. Dopamine will rush through her brains. For a second, she might wonder why she was deprived of something so delicious. With time, she will start to crave that sensation again and again- devouring more and more candy each time to satisfy her desire.

This is exactly how most women who have been sexually bottled up all their lives are going to feel after having crazy sex for the first time. Conservative girls are very hard to tame when they go wild because they have been told to abstain from sexual activities until they are married. (Sometimes without a valid reason)

But the truth is that women are biological creatures who have very strong sexual desires just like men. Though they are weaker and submissive, they still want to be treated equally from a sexual point of view. Most men fantasize about grabbing their women, rock their world and dominate her.

Yes, the society we live in encourages men to bottle up their masculine presence, but women don’t want that. They want the following

  • They are crazy about sex and they want it rough.
  • They want to be dominated by men during sex.
  • They want a man who they don’t have to tell what to do or the right spots to hit. They want a man who just knows.

Strong and sexy men with insane sex drive are hard to find these days. And that is why most women turn to romantic and erotic novels to get a picture of what hard sex is like. The fifty shades series is an excellent example in this regard.

It feels good to be bad

Women love being naughty and that why they love rough sex. They find it exciting to engage in practices that most people consider taboo. They wear an innocent face, but when they are in bed:

  • They want to be thrown around.
  • Some want to be tied.
  • Some want to be chained, whipped and pinned against the wall.

To sum it all, they want to be manhandled. But only a refined man comfortably handles the needs of a woman.

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Some studies have shown that people who engage in BDSM are healthier mentally. Why? Well it’s because these individuals are more open, sensitive to rejection, less neurotic and more secured.

You never know, introducing kink into your relationship could make your relationship stronger and more exciting.

Different forms of BDSM

Before trying out BDSM, it is important that you first talk to your partner about it. As you probably know, all BDSM are not the same. So if you are new to it, it is best to stick to the basic stuff like spanking and so on. As time goes on, you can work your way to the advanced stuff.

At the end of the day, you may be shocked to find out that your girl who you think is sweet and innocent, has an insatiable beast insider her.

Final note

BDSM is a safe and exciting practice that can strengthen your relationship and draw you and your partner closer to each other. Before you dive right into it, make sure you first learn as much as you can about it.

 

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