What to Expect in a BDMS Dungeon

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If you have dabbled in kink for a while and you loved it, chances are you are curious as to how to take things to the next level. You might have heard some shady stories about sex dungeon and sex clubs. While these two are not exactly the same, they share some similarities.

If you are new to kink, it will be easy for you to conclude that you will never go to a BDSM dungeon. Before you come to that conclusion, it is important that you learn how they work and what really happens in them.

This article is going to be an eye-opener to anyone who knows little or nothing about BDSM dungeons.

How many types of BDSM dungeons are there?

The two major types of dungeons are public and private. Public dungeons are accessible to anyone who is willing to follow certain rules, requirements, and guidelines. You may have to show your id before you will be given permission to enter the dungeon. At times, you may be required to submit a background check.

On the other hand, you can only get access to a private dungeon only if you are invited. The people, who are allowed to enter, are those who have been carefully vetted by the owner of the dungeon. So, if your relative or a close friend has a dungeon, he may give you access to it without any qualms.

Most people are often denied from entering BDSM dungeons because they don’t they are seen as predators or their practice is not safe.

Truth be told, getting into BDSM dungeons is difficult. So, to increase the odds of your getting access to them, you have to be seen as credible by the owner of the dungeon. Also, you have to follow all the instructions you will be given.

Getting in

Anyone below the age of 18 or sometimes 21 will not be allowed to enter. If the dungeon you plan to enter requires a special ID, you will be denied access if you don’t have it, regardless of your age or gender.

You may also be required to make a statement or waiver a unique signal. If you don’t know the signal or statement, you won’t be allowed to enter. Keep in mind that people get banned when they fail to follow the rules and regulations governing a dungeon.

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The way and manner you dress to a dungeon is by no means going to determine if you will be given access or not. Even if you are wearing the best leather gear, you may still be denied entry. Dungeons owners are usually careful about who they let in. One mistake with the law or one person who doesn’t respect privacy and safety, and the whole dungeon could be shut down for good.

Don’t forget that phones and any sort of recording device are not allowed inside a dungeon. The rules are to protect the privacy of those present.

How much am I going to pay?

Whether you are going to a public or a private dungeon, it is important that you take some cash with you. Why? Well, it is because dungeons are businesses and they have bills to pay. Electricity, staff, and space don’t come cheap. Prices are usually going to vary from city to city. Bring nothing less than 20 dollars and some extra cash, just in case.

Most dungeons have a strict membership program. To become a member, you may have to pay your membership dues (annually). After this, you will be given access to private parties and privilege to rent space at a low fee. Before you sign up or join any dungeon, ask about their membership fee and air out any questions you may have.

Get to know the protocols

Getting acquainted with the rules that govern a BDSM dungeon is likely going to be a challenge to you especially if you have not visited one before. Terms like- only speak to the right people, averted eyes, among others, are going to be Greek to you. To scale through this challenge, you have to take your time to learn about the rules that govern BDSM dungeons. A great way you can do this is by visiting the dungeon during your leisure and asking the management team about the rules. They will be happy to tell you about it.

Some dungeons have oriental sessions where non-members can learn about the rules at their pace.

Below are some protocols you will see in most dungeons.

  • Submissive must use honorific (sir and madam).
  • Dominants aren’t allowed to touch the submissive of other dominants without first seeking permission.
  • Dominants can speak to any submissive in the dungeon without permission.

If you are a submissive most of the protocols will not apply to you.

Take safety seriously

Safety is taken very seriously in BSDM dungeons. Nothing is left to chance. Your safety and that of everyone should be at the top of your priorities from the moment you walk into the building and show you Id, till you leave.

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Dungeon monitors help to ensure that things don’t spiral out of control or get out of hand. Their job is to make sure that the safe words aren’t ignored. They are trained to spot bad techniques that may be life-threatening. They will stop play when they feel that a situation is unsafe or deteriorating. When someone ignores the rules, doesn’t respect peoples or intrude on their privacy; the person will be removed from the dungeon.

Nudity is not necessary

Yes, can choose to take off your clothes as soon as you enter the dungeon, nobody is going to stop you. But at the same time, you need to keep in mind that nudity is not a requirement. You can choose to wait until you become involved in the scene before taking your clothes off. The choice is yours.

Sex is not allowed

While some dungeons don’t allow penetration, there are others that give you the freedom to do whatever you want as long as you clean up yourself when you are done.

If you are new, don’t assume that you are going to seen strangers carryout crazy stunts as soon as you walk in. or that someone will gag you and take you a freaky area for some action.

When it doubts, ask questions.

Final note

The word “dungeon” may be creep you out. But in reality, BDSM dungeon is a safe haven where open-minded people can have fun and try new things.

 

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